Stop Blaming Kids For Using Tablets
I think it is common for all cultures, nowadays to see kids playing on their tablets, not communicate and play with the other children and even neglect their homework. Everyone has participated in a conversation about this and heard phrases like «kids nowadays don’t play» «we were lucky to be kids back in the 80’», «I feel pity of nowadays kids» and stuff like that.
To be honest, I have thought very much about this matter, because I really care about young humans in general. I am also a great fan of technology and life close to nature. That’s why I will be honest and confess that this kind of conversation really gets on my nerves. And I will definitely explain why.
It is not the tablets’ fault that kids live in an apartment. It is not the tablet’s fault that kids these days play and communicate only through “organized activities”. It is not technology’s fault that kids feel bored in their world that exists when their tablets are switched off.
On the other hand, I totally understand the overwhelming role of being a parent nowadays. I think it is the most demanding period of time in human history to raise a kid. Some decades ago it was possible for kids to go out and play. Every time we came back from school, we would just throw our bags on the floor and just went out to find our friends. And you know what? This was not relaxing only for the kids. This was great for parents too, as they had the opportunity to do the chores and relax at home alone. Physically and mentally.
This practice was essential for both parents and kids.
It is a parent’s right too. This is a parents right that is lost. Parents now need to be all day long with their kids even when they play. This is bad for both aspects, as kids don’t learn how to be free, what happens when you make mistakes, how to communicate and what happens when your heart is broken and you are all alone. This is what sculpts our character. Our strengths and our weaknesses.
However, we only see the kids’ aspect. What about the mental health of the parents? This free time is what parents seek when they let their kids browse on the internet. And no parent should be blamed for that. It is a right to have time for yourself. It is not a luxury, neither it makes you a bad parent.
However, sometimes this time on the internet becomes bigger and parents feel frustrated and worried. And this is normal. So, what happens when parents ask their kids to stay away of the internet? This is what we must think about.
What happens in kids’ lives when the tablet is switched off?
Kids have exciting brains. Exciting brains full of imagination need exciting things and exciting brains get bored really fast. If they don’t find this, their will seek it in any other form that you can imagine. I know this is really challenging, but this is what parents need to do. Make a world their kids out of the tablet that is truly exciting and soil to grow an excited mind.
People have demonized the internet while it is a blessing. For me, the internet is the second perfect thing, after the pure connection with the earth. The internet is the ultimate miracle made by the human desire to communicate with each other. It is not the Internets fault that it is not used for the reasons it was made. Sometimes when I use my mobile phone, like right now, I feel lucky home sapiens to have this extraordinary potential. To have a tablet-shaped tool that can connect me with all the races and continents of this beautiful planet, in real-time.
Can you imagine the miracle? We have got used to it so much and we take it for granted. But Hello??? It is only 15 years old. Have you seen how kids for the first time in our history behave? They are quite serious and aware of many things, previous generations would have never imagined. They are a new generation of humans. And the responsibility of this generation and generally the future of humankind is all ours. So please, do yourself a favour and stop blaming the kids and demonize technology. As my mum says. It’s never a kid’s fault.
The human brain for the first time in our known history is exposed to unlimited and fast information that, to be honest, is not easy for all of us to handle. I am sure though, that if we combine technology with nature, we will build miracles for the years to come.
We can still save this.
You will now be asking “What do you suggest we can do?”
We need to stop demonizing technology and allow our kids to enjoy it while we are building a world outside of it that is exciting for kids. Exciting doesn’t mean expensive. We need to change ourselves so as our kids will follow.
There is nothing we can teach our kids if they don’t see it. Teach yourself freedom. Teach yourself nature. Spend hours of your day learning about philosophy and compassion. Practice it. Start free hobbies for yourself. Teach yourself to be an animal in the woods. Unlearn the unnatural mentality that adult humans don’t play. Show your kids, don’t teach them.
I have never seen a kid that asked for their tablet while being in the woods or when they had someone to play. We need to build a totally new system of compassion and knowledge, so as to show the new generations how to do it.
We are a paradigm. And this is challenging and truly demanding. It is not easy to be a parent. Thank God, it is optional.
We need to blame ourselves for everything and not the kids. It is the world we need to change, not the kids. This is my opinion and maybe I am wrong. Take whatever serves you, and leave out whatever it doesn’t.